5 Mistakes to Avoid while Writing a Condolence Letter
There are many types of letter that people write during their lifetime, but out of all, condolence letter is probably the hardest to write. Finding the right word in those occasions is truly hard. You go through words not knowing which ones are helpful, which not but you still want to let the person whom you are writing to know that you care about her. Here are 5 of the most common mistakes people make when it comes to condolence letters.
1. Not writing a condolence letter at all
Always, always write a condolence letter. No matter if lo live far or close to the person you are writing to, no matter if you knew her really good or not so much, try to find some time to write that letter. Many people prefer having the condolences expressed in a letter than personally in some hard situations. Speaking about and sharing sympathy in public may bring up memories and tears to the person at a time when they want to remain stabile. The condolence letter on the other hand will be read at home, in private, with no one around.
2. Choosing regular stationary
When you write a casual note, you can write it on whatever comes in hand at the moment. But, when you write a condolence letter, choose something nice. This is only one of the ways you are showing your respect.
3. Writing long texts
Since most of the condolence letters are connected to death and losing someone very dear, many people find it hard with writing the letter because they think that the letter should have some deep, philosophical thoughts about death. There’s no word you can write that will lower the pain of your grieving friend, but know that he knows that and he is not expecting some profound text from you.
4. Speaking only about the grief
Try to write about some memory that you have with the person you are writing to. Sharing a memory can help to alleviate the grief a bit. It will distract the reader from his sadness and will steal a smile on his face. Share a memory that you keep close to your heart that included the deceased and let the reader know that you have fond memories of him/her.
5. Comparing your sadness with theirs
If you haven’t experienced a similar loss on your own, don’t compare your feelings with the ones the reader has. Even if you have experienced something, don’t go overboard writing only about your loss and how you felt at the time. A this point that’s not as important as it is the reader’s loss, their sadness, their grief and their feelings.